The holiday season is, traditionally, a time for families to come together
and enjoy each other’s company while giving thanks for the year’s
blessings. Unfortunately, for children and parents of
divorce, this time of year can be particularly stressful and act as a trigger
for certain painful emotions. In addition to magnifying feelings of loneliness,
this season can introduce certain issues such as deciding where your child
will spend Thanksgiving or sorting thorough how their school break will
affect your established
child custody or
Fortunately, determining how your child will spend their time during the
holiday season does not have to be a major battle. To help minimize some
of the stress of planning your child’s schedule this holiday season,
be sure to keep the following tips in mind.
Plan early: Do not wait until the last minute to plan out your child’s holiday
schedule. The sooner you begin, the more time you will have to work out
any concerns that may arise.
Compromise: Certain holidays and dates may have particular importance to your ex-spouse,
such as a planned trip to see family during Christmas. If that week is
less important to you, be willing to accommodate and negotiate a trade,
such as giving them Christmas in exchange for having physical custody
during New Years. The more flexible you are, the more willing your ex-spouse
will likely be to budge on an issue you find important at a later date.
Put it in writing: Once an agreement is reached, make sure it is memorialized in writing
and signed by both you and your ex. Include specifics such as dates and
times. If this agreement is not followed, this written record can be used
as evidence later on in your favor.
Be good, for goodness sake: Remember, the holidays are a time of peace, love, and goodwill. While
you and your spouse may not be on good terms, the least you can do is
to set aside these differences and be civil for the sake of your child.
While these tips can help foster a happier holiday season, we all know
that issues can arise that are beyond our control. If you are having trouble
negotiating a mutual parenting with your spouse, contact TJC ESQ today. Our
Rhode Island family lawyers have been solving complex divorce and child custody cases for the past
30+ years and can provide the trusted guidance you need to reach an amicable
solution as smoothly as possible.
Call (401) 216-4414 or schedule a confidential case review
today to get started.