Every single year, hundreds of
thousands of Americans will file for
divorce, but most of them won’t know what to expect. Stepping into a divorce
without planning can lead you straight into some big yet preventable mistakes.
If you don’t want to jeopardize your best interests in your divorce,
it pays to know what mistakes to look for and how to sidestep them.
Consider this list of common yet overlooked mistakes people make when filing
Filing when angry: When you’re angry, your emotions are calling the shots, whether you
realize it or not. You should try to resist making any legal decision,
especially a divorce that will affect the rest of your life, when you
are still fuming after a fight or argument. This is not to say that you
should steer completely clear of divorce, but take a few days to cool
off so you can approach the situation with a level-head.
Getting your kids involved: The process and outcome of your divorce will be heavily influenced by
whether or not you have children with your spouse. But this does not mean
that your children should become heavily involved with the problems between
you and your spouse. Trying to pull your children into your divorce can
be damaging to their personal developments and may also reinforce the
negative idea that it is “you versus your spouse.” Ideally,
you will be able to show them that unity can still exist in the face of
adversity by remaining civil and cooperative.
Rushing ahead: No doubt once you are confident that you want a divorce, you will also
want it to be over as soon as possible. Feeling trapped inside an unhappy
marriage is understandably stifling. Intentionally rushing through the
process and not double-checking each stipulation and agreement is folly,
however. Try to keep your attention on the outcome that is on its way,
but not necessarily
when it gets there.
This is only a brief list of big mistakes you need to avoid when you are
filing for divorce. Of course, there are many other missteps you could
stumble over if you are not familiar with the process. At TJC ESQ, we
hope to remove the guesswork from our clients’ divorce cases and
guide them to the solution that works best for them. Rather than wondering
if you handled everything correctly, retain the services of our Rhode
Island divorce lawyers and know for certain.
Contact our law firm at your earliest convenience if you would like to know more
about your divorce options.